Why Won’t Men Do Dinner For A First Date?

Hey lady, are you mad when a guy doesn’t want to take you out for dinner on a first date? Yes? Ok keep reading…

Yeah, I get it… You’re looking for effort from a man… I mean, if you’re actually interested in the guy, right?

And that’s exactly what men are worried about and filtering for.

Women who are interested in actually getting to know them.

Women will argue: “If he won’t do dinner he’s broke.” or “He doesn’t want to do dinner because he’s a serial dater.”

Let’s take that first argument about him being “broke”.

Why is this the first thing a woman goes to? The chance he’s actually broke is actually very small. But why insult a man you don’t even know? Do you actually know for sure that he’s broke? No. You don’t. You don’t have any evidence of that at all, do you?

No, you insult him because it’s your way of feeling morally superior to him because he bruised your ego when he didn’t think you were worth taking to dinner yet.

Yeah, I said “yet”, because he vetting you and lucky you, you failed to pass his test.

Now to argue the serial daters point… I would argue that serial daters are savvy daters. And, they’re either serial daters because they really want to find a relationship, or they really want to get laid, and yeah, it’s up to you to figure out which.

But savvy daters are wise to games women play. They don’t trust as easily anymore because they’ve been played before. They’ve been used by women for dinners and entertainment only to find out that the woman wasn’t even interested, and they’re weary of other women attempting to do that same.

To put it simply; Men developed a test to scan for women who are looking for something REAL!

So the key issue here for men is TRUST.

So when a guy suggests coffee or a drink, it’s because you need to build trust with him first, and if you want a relationship, isn’t trust one of the first things you should build?

So stop failing a man’s test with this “I only accept dinner as a first date.” folly. Instead, look at it the way a man who wants something real is… As an opportunity to build trust and something real with you.

Now, if a guy starts pushing for sex too soon, that might just be the clue you need to tell him apart from a guy who wants a relationship. 

Bottom line is this: Men are now testing women’s dating intentions and bailing at the first sign of trouble.